Barry Sultanoff, MD
Breaths come and breaths go. Tens of thousands of times, every day of your life, your breath changes its direction. The events of your life come and go, too. Nothing stays constant. Everything is changing.
The attitude that you choose to take toward this ever-changing nature of your life---how well you learn to let go of what was and move on with what is---has a huge impact on your health and well-being. It is a significant determinant of how long, and how well, you live.
Here's the choice you have: You can be frustrated by what you believe has been lost, and feel pained and sad about it. You can spend a lifetime grieving over an unsatisfactory childhood, a blown opportunity, or a relationship that went wrong. Or you can celebrate the unending gift that life offers---the gift of perpetual renewal, every breath of your life.
Imagine that, as you journey through life, you're carrying a wide-mouthed cup in your hand. All of life's experiences pour into this cup.....the "good" and the "bad", the anticipated and the unexpected, the shocking and the divinely sublime.
Your cup's been designed to easily contain all of this. There is room enough! But, gratefully, it has one important feature that saves you: It has no bottom!
Whatever you collect in your cup, you savor it---as it drops in for a moment---but you do not save it! Like a string of performing beads, each life-experience pauses, takes a bow, and then passes right on through. Like a thoughtful house guest, it only visits for a short while. It doesn't take up residence.
Here's a way to engage this healthy practice of letting go, by harmonizing with the rhythm of your breath:
You cannot hold onto what is past. It's time to move into the present.....into the eternal now. By celebrating change as an inevitable and delicious part of life, you will always have enough. Every moment will bring some new delight.
What a strange paradox:
of what you do not need
to hold onto.....
your bottomless cup
will always be full.
Editor's Note: This material is an edited version of a chapter from a forth coming book, Don't Hold Your Breath!....A Doctor's Guide to Healing Your Life Through Breathing by Barry Sultanoff, M.D. ©Barry Sultanoff, M.D. 1999. A CD Dances with Breath---Soulful Steps for a Peaceful Life including excerpts of this material is available.
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